Black Coffee
- The Room Experience TRME
- May 30, 2018
- 5 min read
Entry 35
Hello there,
…so, I just saw the movie “Black Coffee” after a lot of unsuccessful persuasions from my friends. I had always thought that the movie is an uninteresting one. However, recently, when boredom nearly showed me the other side of heaven, I grudgingly decided to see what the fuss was all about, and since the very minute I started to settle into the storyline of the movie, I could not stop giving myself mental knocks for having not seen the movie earlier. I mean, that movie is the bomb! (Literarily)
The movie made helped me see myself and my love-life in an entirely different light. I was able to face some not-so-bitter truths about myself and I was able to think and decide on ways forward.
So, of course, I learnt several life lessons, a few of which I will be sharing subsequently.
First of these invaluable lessons is never to tie yourself down to the past, most especially the past of your love life. Life is transient. There is hardly anything that lasts for ever. Everything is susceptible to the bully called “Change”. So, if someone leaves you or if a relationship ends in a not-so-well manner, brother, please move on. Life’s too short to remain on one spot. Besides, there is this popular saying that goes “a closed door is a sign of another opened one”.
See, I have come to that stage in my life where I believe that if someone leaves me, it is ultimately that person’s loss. I have come to terms with my personality and my worth. I know my potentials and my capacities. And I believe I’m unique in such a way that no one else in the world will ever be me, not now, not ever. Yes! No one else in the world will ever treat my friends or loved ones in the special way I treat them. So, if they lose me, they will never find anyone else like me again.
More so, what tying one’s self to the past may also cause is the corruption of the present. Many a relationship are in disarray presently because one of the two parties cannot stop comparing the relationship with the past one. Several shards of their souls are still lingering around the borders of the former association, and so, this present one does not enjoy the full presence and representation of their souls.
The simple truth is that the past is what it is – the past. And what’s gone is gone, never to come back again. And even if it does seem to come back, it will not come back as an original but as a modification of that which is gone. So, you see, nothing really ever remains the same again. If this is so, which it is anyway, I wonder why we don’t throw our full attentions into the present whatever and try to get all we can get from it. Remember, the past is but a mere slave of your memory. And right from the world’s foundations, the slave has never been greater than the master.
Lesson Number Two is…well…similar to the first – know what is worth fighting for and what isn’t. Yeah, I believe in the whole “fight for what you love” gibberish, yet, I believe that some things aren’t worth flexing muscles over. A salient truth is – the mind, which is the seat of human emotions and (supposedly) reasoning can be an unpredictable trickster. Once it sticks to a reality it has created for itself, it usually takes time (on the long run) or the Divine (on a short run) to make it change its course.
Some of the most frustrating battles you will ever fight in life are the ones you will get to fight against your own mind (will and emotions) and that of the people relatively close to you. What makes these battles difficult is that their standards take their origins from elements intimately associated with you, and so, possess a kind of rare and sure venerability that can hardly be encountered anywhere else.
However, like I said in passing above, one way through which you can win this kind of battle is by letting time run its course on it. Time has a way of proving the truth and foundations of things. It has a way of changing perspectives and setting crooked courses straight. One time-tested formula that has always worked for love and other things, as also depicted in the movie, is to never try to hold on to things, but to always let them go. So, yeah, if that thing was meant to be yours in the first instance, it will come back to you. And if it doesn’t come back? Brother, move on. This, of course, tallies with another popular saying, “Qui Sera Sera” – What will be will (definitely) be!
Another way this kind of battle can be fought effectively and won is by engaging the Divine. Yeah-yeah, I meant what I said – the Divine. Confession Time (?) – I am an unapologetic Christian. A Jesus Freak. A (in my former Vice-Chancellor’s voice) bo-na-fi-de child of the Most High. And so, I believe in the existence of God and I believe He can do all things. We only have to ask. So, because I’m naturally an impatient person, the “time method” never really works for me. Waiting is very difficult, you know. Therefore, my way of counterbalancing the uneven tides of my emotional battles is by praying about them. When things get too difficult for me to reason out with my own limited human logic, I simply go down on my knees and speak to the One who sees it all – the End from the Beginning. And guess what? This is faster! I guarantee you.
Last but not the least – be the kind of person you want to attract into your life. This is the most important lesson I learnt from the movie. Birds of a feather, they say, flock together. You can’t have tangible worth and attract someone with no worth. You can’t be someone of substance and attract someone who has a shallow mind and can’t see beyond the present/physical. The law of attraction is a natural law. It still works and will always do. If there are certain qualities you want to see in your present or prospective lover/friend/spouse, the best way to bring them about is by cultivating similar qualities yourself. An eagle can only be friends with an eagle. The only thing a dog can be to a lion is a mere distant cousin.
Well…that is all I can say for now about everything. Time and space may not permit me to say more. (Actually, that is a blatant lie. Lol. The fact is – I’m becoming too lazy nowadays.) However, I wholeheartedly recommended the movie to anyone who hasn’t seen it and has the desire to learn the same lessons that I learnt.
The world is fast progressing. Things and the way they are being done are evolving every minute. The best favour we could do ourselves is to gain as much positive knowledge as possible, so as to be able to find our own unique places in the scheme of things. Really, no one can afford to be left out. So, read books, watch (good) movies, make good friends, learn from the experiences of people, fall in love, laugh indiscriminately, face life boldly, work hard, read your Bible, go to Church and Know Your God.
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